Do Not Awaken Love: Concluding Thoughts

If you joined in for this blog series, you probably saw this last topic coming. If you’re just now reading – catch up here.

These thoughts are not a fourth category of boundaries in relationships. It’s really a subsection of point three – Physical Boundaries.

So for those of you not struggling with the temptation to have sex outside of marriage – how about one that might hit closer to home? Flirting. Let’s ask ourselves, are we a serial flirter?

This encompasses modesty also. Again, most of us have been fed a line similar to this – dress modestly to keep guys from struggling. I had a high school teacher that would say, “Skin is sin so tuck it in.” (This was at a public high school where we were required to tuck all shirts in). I don’t want you to misread my following statement. Yes, ladies, we need to help protect our brothers in Christ. But again, there is so much more at stake.

I want Kevin to be attracted to me – not to my low blouse cut or my shorts that barely cover my underwear. I want him to be attracted to the love of Christ in me. Our lives should point others to Christ, not to ourselves.

So let’s conclude with one more quote from the book:

 Don’t give your heart away until you know what he plans to do with it.

Do you remember the verse from the very, very beginning of this whole series?

Do not stir or awaken love until the appropriate time.                                                                                               -Song of Solomon 3:5

We create physical boundaries in part to protect ourselves in a relationship. But we also follow these boundaries in order to better live a picture of the Gospel so that our daily lives match the words we preach.